Irritation

I have a problem. Very often I feel extreme flashes of irritation at people when they don't do what I want them to do or are rude to me with no prior reason. I think it's a control problem. It plagues me like my internal jealousies do. And I'm working on it. Over the past year or two I've been becoming increasingly uptight and it worries me. And not only worries, but also makes myself mad. I don't want to be known as that girl who can't take a joke, that's really not me! But I don't know how to rectify the situation. Maybe I can enter some "happy" therapy that will make sure I'm always bright and cheerful. Because that's the girl I want everyone to remember. I may not be the most popular, or have all the friends, but I do have a core group of (mostly) solid friends, and that's all I need. To be liked by many would just be an extra plus. But I'm good. Except for my not taking a joke thing. I'll need some help and support with that one...